Recently, a friend asked me why they had such trouble accepting relationships. My friend explained that they felt a fear of rejection and accepting love. I myself have spent the last number of weeks troubled over a similar conflict. Is love worth the risk? I told my friend "You over analyze the relationship. The whole concept of being in a relationship, however committed it may be, is for two people who strongly like each other to share their infatuation between them. Don't dwell on the end of a relationship just because it's the inevitable. It's okay to make mistakes in a relationship because you can learn from them later. Just do what feels appropriate and don't become paranoid. Live in the moment and if that means letting yourself fall in love, don't be afraid of it. It's part of the experience."
That being said, in general, is it better to take the hedonistic approach? Is there a grey area that some would call the "practical hedonist"? Can you live in the moment and make the best decision at the same time? Will analyzing the situation really make you any more reassured? Can you always trust your gut? When does living in the moment become hazardous? Is the stress we feel from trying to make decisions completely self-inflicted or is it really valid? It's all a lot to wrap you head around and it can feel overwhelming. From someone who spent one year making quick, hasty decisions that felt right in the moment and then spent the following 6 months full of regret, I can tell you that there is no easy answer. There is no quick solution.
What we can do to help us in this frustrating conflict, is to have a few guidelines. Know that whatever life decision you are facing, you must not harm another person. You must not harm yourself. You must not do something that goes against your beliefs and philosophies. Do not let yourself be pressured into anything. Do not seek advice from acquaintances. But certainly, do not linger forever on one decision. Don't be afraid to take a risk. Be practical and responsible, but remember that life is only worth living if you are happy.
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